I Hope I Made Sense

     For a long while, I couldn't figure out what bothered me so much about the "modesty culture". Maybe it was the fact that I just couldn't grasp the idea of spending that much time worrying about your clothes. I mean, I hate shopping, and the idea of trying to find something that fits in a narrow span of "modesty" is just crazy. There are so many modest clothes out there, you don't even have to put any thought into it.  

After much contemplation, I have come to a few conclusion as to why the "modesty culture" really irks me.

    Reason #1: The "modesty culture" forces girls into modesty. Pretty much every girl ever has her own sense of modesty, and the only reason any girl would dress provocatively is to draw attention to herself. I believe that girls (especially of our culture) know what is and isn't appropriate, and they all make a choice. They make a choice to be their version of modest. Now, with the "modesty culture" girls are forced into a definition of what modesty is without being able to define what modesty is for themselves. That, in turn, allows girls to be very curious about wearing things that are "immodest" by their standards. Like, say, a strapless dress, or shorts, or a dress that comes above the knee, or a tank top. (So, essentially, the plan backfires.) Instead of being comfortable in their own skin, girls in the "modesty culture" are trapped in a jail of modesty sins. Personally, my version of modesty involves no low-cut tops. That's it. As a person who doesn't look attractive in super short shorts, I don't really even have to put that up as a caution. Shorts aren't really all that provocative to me anyway, but, yea...

    Reason #2: (This one irks me the most of all!) The whole purpose of the "modesty culture" is to protect girls from drawing attention to themselves. Attention from boys. Well, I don't care what you wear, boys are still going to look at you. You can't just magically prevent boys from looking at you the wrong way, THAT'S NOT EVEN YOUR JOB! If boys are going to be boys, that's their problem, not the girls'. Like, what the heck?! When did it become a girl's responsibility to make sure that boys control themselves? WHAT?!  Life is just too short to try to solve everybody's problems, you know? Especially making up a culture that acts like they know how to prevent a boy from looking at you. This is going to sound really wrong, but who cares if boys look at you or don't look at you? Boys aren't even important until you're an adult. Seriously. (As a side fact, I'd like to say that not all boys are pigs. Like seriously, there are so many really nice guys out there, and it's like this culture is telling girls otherwise, it's really annoying.)

  Reason #3: What is so immodest about wearing a tank top? What, you're showing your arms and shoulders off, so? BLAH.

   I don't even know what my conclusion to all of this is...

  I hope I made sense. 

August Rush

Fictional Character(s) of the week: August Rush
 

Freddie Highmore as August Rush

Where he's found: August Rush film

Why I love him: Well, I don't know. I've always loved the movie since I first saw it. I just love how the music connected everything and everyone in the movie, and August's determination to find his parents is so heartwarming and adorable. Also, he's like a freakin' musical prodigy, and I've always wanted to kind of be of musical talent, so I kind of admire his awesomeness.

 

Johnathan Rhys Meyers and Keri Russell as the parents of August Rush

Other Notes: If you love music, you need to watch this film. If you don't love music, you need to watch this film. If you don't like it, then fine, but you should give it a chance. If you don't give it a chance, oh, well, I'll get over it. :)


All photos credit of Google Images

The Blog Award Revisted

     I was nominated by Mary Jane for the Liebster blog award, and even though I've already done it before, I thought that I'd answer Mary Jane's questions and even post 11 new facts about myself. 
   First of all, thank you, Mary Jane for nominating me, this is really too much being nominated once, and now a second time! I feel like my blog is well-loved.

   Second, the 11 new facts about myself *deep breath* this is going to be hard...

Fact numero uno: This is probably the absolute busiest summer I've ever had, and I love it, but I hate it.

Fact numero dos: I have found that when you have your own amount of money, it's not so easy to save. Seriously, I have always saved or given away the money that I got (as a gift or whatever) before my job. Naturally, I supposed that saving my money would be the absolute easiest thing to do, I mean, there was nothing I wanted to spend my money on anyway---but oh my goodness look there's a Wreck This Journal, I must have it!

Fact numero tres: I'm going to be a cosmetologist. Maybe later I'll get a degree in writing or something (Not that I really need a degree to be a writer, but it would be cool to have an academic college degree next to the beauty college degree).

Fact numero cuatro: Man, this is so hard...I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT ME!

Fact Numero cinco: I'm obsessed with going to the bookstore and spending all of my money there because it's a bookstore and I need books and books are essential to life!

Fact numero seis: I'm not really a full-fledged girly-girl, and I probably never will be. I mean, I have girly-girl tendencies, but books over looks, people!

Fact numero siete: I am currently listening to a Pandora shuffle that I'm calling my "Saturday morning Jam", but it's not different from when I shuffle it all the other times, so...

Fact numero ocho: I got poison ivy at work, and I wish that it'd just GO AWAY!

Fact numero nueve: I'm home alone right now.

Fact numero dies: (ONLY TWO MORE!) I don't know anything about me, I'm just not that interesting...well, I don't know about that, but I don't know...

Fact numero once:  I just skipped a Taylor Swift song and now a one direction song is on, yep, I made it to 11. 

Well, I made it through 11 more facts about me. That was weirdly hard. Anyway, on to Mary Jane's questions!

1. Who is your favorite psychopath? 

    Well, probably Sherlock Holmes as he's portrayed in Sherlock BBC, but technically he's a sociopath, and I'm not familiar with a lot of psychopaths, so I'm not really sure, you know?

2. What is the first genre you really got into? (sci-fi, mystery, fantasty, etc.)

    I guess the "poofy dress" genre because the first series I ever read and loved was The Little House on the Prairie by Laura Ingalls Wilder. :)

 

3. Who/what are your favorite songs/music artists/albums currently?

    I will always be a big fan of Coldplay, I just really, really love their music. Other than that, I don't really have a favorite song right now, I've almost been too busy to listen to new music, haha!

    

4. What was the first online account you got?

    That would be my e-mail. Man, I was so cool!

5. What are a few of your favorite superheroes?

    Um, all of the Avengers...at least the ones in the Marvel Movie. I also really like the new Spiderman, and I've always enjoyed Superman, but I wasn't really a fan of his newest movie.

6. What is your favorite accent?

    Hmm...great question! Due to my life-long goal of visiting Ireland someday, I would have to say Irish. :)

 

7. Who would you prefer more? Mr. Thornton from North and South, Mr. Darcy from Pride and Prejudice, Mr. Knightley from Emma, or Mr. Rochester from Jane Eyre?

    Right now, I'm only familiar with Darcy and Knightley, but I just picked up North and South and I cannot wait to finish it! I honestly love them both so much, but I have to say the most obvious, Mr. Darcy himself. Pride and Prejudice is one of my favorite books hands down. 

8. Why did you decide to start blogging?

    I had this thought, this idea that I simply had to share, you can find it here.

9. What are you currently reading?

    North and South by Elizabeth Gaskell

10. Would you share a few lines of your [current] favorite lyrics?

       Sure I will! (They're Coldplay, not surprisingly)

      I'd rather be a comma than a full stop~Coldplay "Every Teardrop is a Waterfall"

      When you're still waitin' for the snow to fall, it doesn't really feel like Christmas at all~ Coldplay 

 Sorry, I can't think of any others right now...

      

11. Are you more interested in science or history?

     Most definitely History, I'm not very good at science, so...

What I've Been Up To

First of all, I haven't abandoned you. I've just been busy working, and reading, and totally forgetting about my character post yesterday. I would just put it up now, buuuut I'll just do it next week because I can't handle the idea of having a scheduled post a whole day late. Just the thought of it cringed me.

Well, to start things off, I went to the book store last week, and I've already read my books I bought. One was amazing and one was a pretty so-so read. 

The amazing one:

I'd heard of this book, and it looked different enough to get my attention. Behold, it was full of twists and turns that kept me on my toes, but it was also full of awesome characters that made me want to jump in the story and be a part of their world. I finished this book on the day I got it. It was just that good! I can't wait to get the next in the series!

The so-so one:
Please don't banish me from your life for this...
 

 This book was just what I expected it to be. It's your typical Young-Adult thriller. It was interesting, and it did have its own share of twists and turns, but none of the characters really stood out with their own distinct personality...Well, except for Chuck. Not surprisingly, Chuck was my favorite character...and also not surprisingly(*SPOILER ALERT*) he died. *Deep sigh of sadness and despair* I mean, I suppose I'll pick up the next one, but you know...

Other than that, I've just been busy working at the good ol' golf course. 

Forgiveness and Struggles

     One time when I was younger, my mom presented me with a question of sorts. She asked me,"You have two sisters who grew up with a deadbeat father and careless mother. After the sisters are all grown up, one blames her parents for everything, but the other insists that her parents didn't know any better and that they loved them. In one word, what is the difference between the sisters?"
     The answer may seem obvious to you, but my younger self didn't really quite understand. I threw out about 15 different words, but none of them were the answer. 
     My mom shook her head with a slight smile, "Forgiveness." She said, "You can go your whole life and never forgive your parents for their mistakes, or you can choose to hold on to the pain they caused you." 

     This was often something my mother taught me, she wanted me to understand that if she made any mistakes, she was sorry. She didn't want me(and still doesn't want me) to look back at the way I was/am raised and see her and my dad as the "bad guys". To be honest, all of things I've ever blamed my parents for were stupid things that have since made a lot of sense. It's funny how children think they know what's best for them.
       Anyway, I've gotten way off track. I started writing this post with the intention of getting to here. Don't let the things that you have been through become who you are. You cannot go your entire life blaming other people or God for what others have done to you. You need to get out of your little universe and realize that the world doesn't revolve around your struggles and problems. Forgiveness is key when you let go of your struggles of the past, or even the struggles of now. Struggles make us who we are, but struggles are not who we are. We are not our struggles. We are not our struggles. There is going to be pain, that's life. If you have a good and forgiving attitude, then the struggle won't be nearly as bad and won't last nearly as long. 
     Which sister are you? The blamer or the blameless? 
     

Just a side note: No, I didn't forget about my character on Monday, the internet was really slow, and nothing was working, so I'll publish it next week!