I Hope I Made Sense

     For a long while, I couldn't figure out what bothered me so much about the "modesty culture". Maybe it was the fact that I just couldn't grasp the idea of spending that much time worrying about your clothes. I mean, I hate shopping, and the idea of trying to find something that fits in a narrow span of "modesty" is just crazy. There are so many modest clothes out there, you don't even have to put any thought into it.  

After much contemplation, I have come to a few conclusion as to why the "modesty culture" really irks me.

    Reason #1: The "modesty culture" forces girls into modesty. Pretty much every girl ever has her own sense of modesty, and the only reason any girl would dress provocatively is to draw attention to herself. I believe that girls (especially of our culture) know what is and isn't appropriate, and they all make a choice. They make a choice to be their version of modest. Now, with the "modesty culture" girls are forced into a definition of what modesty is without being able to define what modesty is for themselves. That, in turn, allows girls to be very curious about wearing things that are "immodest" by their standards. Like, say, a strapless dress, or shorts, or a dress that comes above the knee, or a tank top. (So, essentially, the plan backfires.) Instead of being comfortable in their own skin, girls in the "modesty culture" are trapped in a jail of modesty sins. Personally, my version of modesty involves no low-cut tops. That's it. As a person who doesn't look attractive in super short shorts, I don't really even have to put that up as a caution. Shorts aren't really all that provocative to me anyway, but, yea...

    Reason #2: (This one irks me the most of all!) The whole purpose of the "modesty culture" is to protect girls from drawing attention to themselves. Attention from boys. Well, I don't care what you wear, boys are still going to look at you. You can't just magically prevent boys from looking at you the wrong way, THAT'S NOT EVEN YOUR JOB! If boys are going to be boys, that's their problem, not the girls'. Like, what the heck?! When did it become a girl's responsibility to make sure that boys control themselves? WHAT?!  Life is just too short to try to solve everybody's problems, you know? Especially making up a culture that acts like they know how to prevent a boy from looking at you. This is going to sound really wrong, but who cares if boys look at you or don't look at you? Boys aren't even important until you're an adult. Seriously. (As a side fact, I'd like to say that not all boys are pigs. Like seriously, there are so many really nice guys out there, and it's like this culture is telling girls otherwise, it's really annoying.)

  Reason #3: What is so immodest about wearing a tank top? What, you're showing your arms and shoulders off, so? BLAH.

   I don't even know what my conclusion to all of this is...

  I hope I made sense.